One of my clients told me about a book she liked very much. Basically, the book was meant as a guide for tidying up, in which the author describes how she picks up every single object in a room and then decides whether or not this object makes her still feel happy. For example, this could be a present which she actually never really liked, but kept because she liked the person and appreciated the gesture behind the present. After reading the book, she was able to throw away the present, while keeping the associated emotions in her heart.
To what other parts of our lives can we transfer this idea?
- Experiences from the past, which weigh us down, can be looked at, learned from and then discarded as unnecessary ballast.
- We can stop worrying about the future and, here and now, start to shape the future of which we dream.
- We can begin to question beliefs that that we learned when we were young, such as „Never trust a stranger“ or „Don’t blow your own horn “, and replace them with values and rules that strengthen and support our current life and situation.
- Also look at how often we spend our time with people who hold us back, instead of associating with those who really do us good?
What ballast are you carrying that you need to get rid of in order to make “room” for a fulfilling life?
I, for my part, also tidy up my life regularly and ask myself the following questions:
- Who am I today? What motivates me and what are my central needs?
- With what do I want to fill my life? What makes me happy?
- What is holding me back from leading such a life?
- What do I need in order to shape such a life?
- What resources do I have and what do I want to learn for this?
- Who or what can support me?
I wish you a lot of fun tidying up and shaping your life so that it meets your personal needs and wishes.
Renate Pasch-Donohoe